FINDING YOUR WAY

Lionsgate Bridge...my dangerous driving picture taking

The weekend went by too quickly.  Saturday started off a little later than I figured it would.  My friend stayed overnight and didn’t get up till about 11am.  We had enough time to make it to the spa, with picking up my other friend along the way, but we had to hustle it.  I was up before 9am and should have woken my friend earlier, but figured she needed her sleep.

So, the spa was a bit disappointing.  I had a good hand massage (cause I told the girl I love hand massages), but the manicure itself wasn’t that great – and she forgot to do the hand masque.  I have had better manicures for half the price.  Anyways, it doesn’t matter.  What matters is that my friend, with the post-partum problems, really enjoyed her massage.  And, I was able to make her laugh too.  She’s slowly, very slowly, realizing that she needs to let go of her guilt when she does things for herself.  She’s also realizing that if she doesn’t take care of herself, then she’s not going to be any good for her family.  Hopefully she’ll let go of some of her need to be perfect.

Sometimes I feel inadequate to help my friend.  I can’t relate because I’ve never gone through what she’s going through.  All I can do is just listen and once in awhile make her laugh with my witty humour (ok, I’d like to think it’s witty..lol).  We talked about doing some stuff together to get her out of the house and I’ve been meaning to go to yoga with her, but haven’t had the time.  And, now I’ve agreed to go to meditation with her, which I will definitely make the time to do.  I know that spending time with her is helping her gain a bit of her independence and realizing how good it is to do things for yourself.  And, it eases her anxiety when one of us is with her.  Finding your way back to “normal” is tough, and especially tough when your thinking has always been take care of others before yourself.

It really does do a body and mind good when you take the time to nourish your soul and self.