SORE MUSCLES

I am sore and it’s quite pathetic. 

It’s not like I’m super out of shape, but I could be better and I know it.  I try to keep active but I’ve been taking it easy lately because I’ve been feeling exhausted.  I know why I’m exhausted and I’m working on it. 

So, yesterday after lunch the group of us decided to go for a walk.  Pretty simple, right?  Well, I think I pushed myself a bit too much on the walk because when I went out last night I came out of my car and I thought I was going to buckle from the pain.  I actually think I pulled a muscle on my ass.  I know, hilarious…actually, not so much.  I have bad back problems historically, and I think it probably wasn’t such a good idea to be pounding the pavement the way I did with not the greatest shoes.  Well, I was wearing very good flat shoes, but I don’t think it provided enough cushion, so my guess is that’s probably why my hips and ass were hurting.  Goodness, this really is pathetic, I’m too young to be so crippled!

Its made me think that I need to do more exercise now because it just goes to show that I’m obviously not doing enough to keep myself fit.  Cause if I was fit why would my ass be hurting?  😡

STRESSFUL PEOPLE

I met up with my former co-worker last night.  It was nice to see her, but I’m also glad I don’t see her everyday anymore.  I know, it sounds mean, but I’m honestly not being mean.  For my health and wellness its good that I see her only once in awhile now.

Have you ever been friends with someone who’s always hyper or high-stressed?  So much so that they make you feel the same way?  She’s like that for me. I use to have lunch with her everyday and also with a bunch of other women.  And, she was not only loud but just very hyper, and it stressed me out just watching her!  I’ve never had anyone make me feel this way.  She was also one of those people who had to have all the attention on her and she told stories, very detailed, all through out lunch.  I just wanted to sit quietly and eat, you know?

Anyways, she has a very good heart, a little moody, but she has good intentions and it was good to see her.  We got caught up with all the gossip at my former work place and it feels good to know that I made the right decision to move on.  Plus, honestly, its nice to have relaxing lunches again.  I miss her and the girls I had lunch with, but I don’t miss the craziness of it all.  On my last day I had brought food for everyone and she just went crazy arranging stuff and portioning things that I finally had to tell her to stop because she was making my last lunch way too stressful!  She wouldn’t stop fussing, so I had to tell her to stop the madness.

As I get older, it becomes more important for me to maintain some calm….so even though I miss having lunch with them, its nice to have my sanity and calm atmosphere back.  😉

STUPID QUESTIONS

I was down in Buffalo this weekend, as mentioned below.  It was totally unplanned and I was totally guilted into it – but I won’t rehash the story cause it just pisses me off (still!).  Now, I’ve crossed the border a million times and I’ve had my fair share of stupid questioning at the border.  This weekend topped it though.  I realize that they are trying to do their job and probably trying to see if they can rattle me, but sometimes you have to wonder about the intelligence of these customs officers. 

Stupid question #1: “Your hubcap’s missing” – now isn’t that observant, I never knew that was against the law or a relevant question when you’re trying to get into the States.  I wonder if there is a rule where I have to have all four hubcaps on my tires?  Cause when I told him it was taken, he didn’t seem to believe me, I had to repeat myself twice.  What I should have said was that there were so many drug packets lined inside of the tire that I had to remove the hubcap to give it space..yeah, right.  Really, how relevant is it that I’m missing a hubcap?

Stupid question #2: “So, you went to university to make stickers” – that one made my friend and I burst out laughing cause it was so damn stupid and demeaning.  The border guy actually laughed too, and I think he was embarassed, cause I could tell he realized it wasn’t a smart question.  My friend already told him what she did and where she worked, but apparently he’s not only dumb, but deaf too.

There were other questions, but I won’t embarass the U.S. customs officers any further.  You would think by his line of questioning he thought we were trying to import drugs or go to Buffalo to prostitute ourselves or something.  He certainly inspected my car carefully.  He also made a point of asking over and over again if we were only going for the day and that we would return to Toronto right away.  Yes, Buffalo is not our dream destination and we wouldn’t dare stay longer than we have to.

I think the best stupid thing that a U.S. customs office did once was look at my passport, I’m Asian, and then look at my friend, who’s Albanian, and asked her if she was me.  Like, hello, I never knew Albanian people looked Asian.  Trust me, my friend and I do not look alike.  Makes me shake my head to think that these people are suppose to be protecting the United States.  Granted, Canadian customs isn’t any better, but the U.S. can’t say they are that great either.  I can give them great examples to support that.  😉

FLOWER POWER

This weekend I took my friend’s mother out to buy flowers for her garden.  I do this once a year for her because her son is good for nothing.  Anyways, we went to three places – Crappy Tire (aka Canadian Tire), Home Depot and Dominions.

I was in a foul mood on Saturday due to the fact that I was being guilted into a trip across the border, more on that another time.  So, that affected my patience on Saturday.  My friend’s mother was complaining the whole time we were out.  She kept saying the plants looked terrible and the vegetable plants were too small.  And, she was on this mission to get cucumbers for her vegetable garden but couldn’t find it.  So, I was helping her and when we got to Dominions, our last stop, I was at my wit’s end.  She was behind me and she goes “oh, it won’t be here” and I looked and guess what?  Cucumbers!  I kinda snapped at her and said “look Ms. Negativity, there’s your cucumbers so stop the complaining!”.  I normally don’t snap at her, and I typically have great patience with her, but I was just not in the mood – and her constant complaining was not helping.  

Actually, my friend and I got scolded at Crappy tire, yeah, like the guy knows how much we both do for her and I’m not even her daughter!  We weren’t even snapping at her, I was just making fun and trying to block her from buying anymore flowers (my car was packed).  I hate when people think they can judge you.

So, we got to Home Depot and she was looking at the flowers, hymning and hawing over what to get. She was reaching for these flowers and my friend goes to her mother “just ask the lady to help you!”.  The home depot lady went over to help her and asked her which one she would like.  My friends mother replies “I don’t know, make sure it’s a good one”.  We started to laugh and laugh because we couldn’t believe she said that to the poor women.

Shopping, whether its for flowers or groceries, is always an adventure with this women.

CATCH-UP

I was awoken last night, just before falling asleep by a call from a former co-worker in Vancouver.  I was so pleasantly surprised by it.  Even though I was this close to falling asleep.

We started in on all the gossip that’s gone on at the company I use to work for.  I breath a sigh of relief that I’m no longer there.  I mean, don’t we all with our former jobs? 

We got into a discussion about a former mutual co-worker of ours and how much she’s changed.  Or maybe she hasn’t changed and has always been a self-serving you-know-what.  I’d say “bitch” but that would be too mean..lol.  Seriously, it’s sad because I use to be very close to this mutual co-worker and we were friends outside of work.  I helped her out when no one else would and what did I get?  A stab in the back, that’s what I got.  And, for that, I won’t speak to her again.  I can forgive her, but I can’t be friends with her.  And, apparently she’s done the same thing to my former co-worker, which sucks because this women helped her get her job (that’s right my former co-worker’s job – she retired) when she moved back to Vancouver and the way she’s treated her since is atrocious. 

Anyways, this former co-worker was happy that I had started a new job.  She was calling to tell me that she had given me a glowing reference – again, after I already started the job!  I told her where my frist business trip would be and she was so excited for me.  She told me I should come visit her, I always stay with her when I go to Vancouver.  I’d love to get out to Vancouver, but I haven’t determined my travel schedule right now at work, so I can’t commit to anything, which sucks.

It was so nice to catch-up with her because I’ve missed that connection with my Vancouver “family”.  Vancouver will always be my second home.  🙂

SEXY NUMBERS

I had a very interesting conversation today at work.  My second week into the job.  I was going to the printer and three of my co-workers were having this conversation about “numbers”.  I stopped and started to listen because they seemed to be including me.

After listening for a few minutes I got confused because they were asking me questions.  I actually thought they were talking about this t.v. series called “Numbers”, but they weren’t – how silly was I?  They were actually talking about the number of sexual partners one persons had. 

Well, didn’t I just step into a very intriguing conversation.  Apparently, H thought his friend, who’s 25, has had tons of partners, which is at 40 as I write this (or could be more, she could be engaging in her 41st partner for all I know right now).  V thought in the context of this girl’s background, 40 partners made sense.  No, she’s not a hooker.  And, no one should be labeled because they’ve had 1 partner, 100 partners or no partners.  To each their own I always say.

I always have an opinion, I mean its rare when I don’t, and being new didn’t deter me.  So, I agreed with H on the 40 being a lot, but I also agreed with V because knowing this girl’s background explains a lot, but that doesn’t negate the fact that 40 is still a lot of partners for a person who’s 25.  I’m way older than that and let’s just say I will never have 40 partners.

H also felt that at some point people have to stop having sex all the time – except if they are in a monogamous relationship.  Now, that cracked me up because that’s such a conservative view.  I mean, I respect it, but it still makes me laugh.  There are many reasons why people have lots of sex and why they have no sex.  Age doesn’t matter.  Relationship status doesn’t matter.  V was kind of bashing him and I was giving many reasons why things are the way they are.  They were cracking up cause I was going full on with very descriptive details.  V even mentioned to H as I was talking “see I told you she wouldn’t care”, meaning I wouldn’t be offended by the sex talk. 

In the end of it all, it doesn’t matter really what we think.  We live our lives for ourselves and no one can judge us except for ourselves.  If someone chooses to have lots of sex then so be it…personally, sex is an intimate act and to engage in that with several people that I’m not having a serious relationship with just doesn’t appeal to me. 

C’est la vie!  😉

RELATIONSHIPS

My friend and I have been having these discussions about this mutual friend (more acquaintance to me) of ours who’s going through this hellish break-up with an ass she’s been dating for 7 years.  We’re discussing it because my friend is this mutual friend’s boss at work.  Yeah, not a good mix, hiring your friend, even if it’s not a good friend, to work with you.  It’s certainly biting her in the ass now and she regrets hiring her, especially with this drama happening now.

They went on a business trip this past week and they were trying to set her (mutual friend) up with a guy who works in the Montreal office.  Apparently, she became quite smitten with him.  When my friend and I were talking about it I asked her what his reaction was.  She told me that he basically thought she was a nice girl, was everything that was advertised about her, but he was keeping his options open.  He wasn’t keen about the distance – right, like that ever stopped a relationship from happening.  Really, what he was trying to say but didn’t was that he just wasn’t into her.

My friend thought there might be some potential.  I think she’s being a bit naive.  So, I told her honestly, there wasn’t any potential.  If he was into her, distance wouldn’t matter and he wouldn’t be keeping his options open.  Our mutual friend will have to move on and I think my friend needs to let her know that.  Or at least steer her in that direction, because it was her and this other women’s idea to set them up, so they need to bring her back to reality.  It seems harsh, but I think its worse to give her hope.

This mutual friend has already gone through relationship hell, which quite honestly is 50% her fault, but having stated that, I don’t think she should be pining away for a guy who’s not into her.  My friend needs to do the right thing and tell her to move on.   

Relationships are already complicated, if you knew the other person wasn’t into your friend, let them know, because in the end it’s better to let your friend know right off from the start so that a) you’re not tortured everyday at work with their pining and b) it’s the right thing to do.