I had a very interesting conversation today at work. My second week into the job. I was going to the printer and three of my co-workers were having this conversation about “numbers”. I stopped and started to listen because they seemed to be including me.
After listening for a few minutes I got confused because they were asking me questions. I actually thought they were talking about this t.v. series called “Numbers”, but they weren’t – how silly was I? They were actually talking about the number of sexual partners one persons had.
Well, didn’t I just step into a very intriguing conversation. Apparently, H thought his friend, who’s 25, has had tons of partners, which is at 40 as I write this (or could be more, she could be engaging in her 41st partner for all I know right now). V thought in the context of this girl’s background, 40 partners made sense. No, she’s not a hooker. And, no one should be labeled because they’ve had 1 partner, 100 partners or no partners. To each their own I always say.
I always have an opinion, I mean its rare when I don’t, and being new didn’t deter me. So, I agreed with H on the 40 being a lot, but I also agreed with V because knowing this girl’s background explains a lot, but that doesn’t negate the fact that 40 is still a lot of partners for a person who’s 25. I’m way older than that and let’s just say I will never have 40 partners.
H also felt that at some point people have to stop having sex all the time – except if they are in a monogamous relationship. Now, that cracked me up because that’s such a conservative view. I mean, I respect it, but it still makes me laugh. There are many reasons why people have lots of sex and why they have no sex. Age doesn’t matter. Relationship status doesn’t matter. V was kind of bashing him and I was giving many reasons why things are the way they are. They were cracking up cause I was going full on with very descriptive details. V even mentioned to H as I was talking “see I told you she wouldn’t care”, meaning I wouldn’t be offended by the sex talk.
In the end of it all, it doesn’t matter really what we think. We live our lives for ourselves and no one can judge us except for ourselves. If someone chooses to have lots of sex then so be it…personally, sex is an intimate act and to engage in that with several people that I’m not having a serious relationship with just doesn’t appeal to me.
C’est la vie! 😉