THE GOOD, BAD AND UGLY

This weekend reminded me how catty women can be.  I try, very hard, not to get sucked into the vortex that is the cattiness.  The good, bad and ugly of friendship between women.  Especially when there is a friend who is getting married and they all think they know better than the bride.  I guess the fact that its her day doesn’t seem to matter to them.

The good: my friend is getting married
The bad: planning the wedding
The ugly: all the catty, backstabbing remarks

So, yesterday my friend and I went up to Barrie to meet with her cousin to look at bridesmaid dresses (I am not part of the wedding party thank god).  Apparently, last weekend when the bride went up to look for dresses for the whole wedding party, there was a meltdown by the bride.  My friend and her cousin thought it was ridiculous that she broke down considering she hasn’t really had to do a lot of planning for the wedding.  I was…well, surprised by their lack of sympathy for her.

Fast forward, we go to the only two wedding boutiques in Barrie and they settle on a dress.  But, pretty much the whole drive to these two places my friend and her cousin go on and on about how the bride is so narrow-minded, that some of the dresses that were picked the material was crappy, they didn’t know why she insisted on going to a bridal place for the flower girls dresses when she could have just gone to Winners.  It was mind-boggling how they just kept bitching about the bride.

Then on the way home my friend continued the bitching.  Its a miracle my head didn’t explode.  I get that my friend is still having a hard time adjusting to the fact that her closest friend is getting married.  I understand, but my patience is wearing thin.  I’m not sure that the next time she bitches to me about it I’ll be that receptive towards it.  Honestly, my friend is being way too hard on the bride and her opinions on the future husband.  I want to shake her and say “get over it and move on!”. 

Oy…my head hurts just wrapping my head around this drama.  Its too much for me.  Simplicity has always been my philosophy.  That’s why if I ever consider getting married…my future husband better be okay with eloping.

4 responses to “THE GOOD, BAD AND UGLY

  1. It’s amazing that sometimes the best thing to make a person unhappy is to show them another person who is happy.

    It sounds like the bride has at least one good friend in you. The best gift you can give her is to stay out of that drama.

    🙂

  2. Gosh the stress of getting married, I remember it well. Perhaps her friend is melting down for the same reason as the bride, it is a momentous change all encapsulated into one event. why not say, “get over it” to you friend 🙂 and remind her that while she may not like the future husband, it makes HER friend happy and that is all that counts, and having good friends support her too.

  3. I’m amazed by how everyone melts down during a wedding. I loved mine, but still sometimes wish I had eloped.

  4. I hate weddings! everytime I go to a wedding my family keep asking me when will I get married. Damm I’m only 21! 🙂

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