So, speaking about love and relationships, I’m on a roll now, I had another conversation with a different friend over the weekend about men. It was like the weekend of relationship talk.
I don’t even know how we got into it because we weren’t even talking about men, but she just blurted out to me that she had tried E-Harmony. I was really surprised, I looked at her and was like “what?”. She had tried another dating site before E-Harmony and did not like it at all, that’s why I was so surprised that she tried internet dating again. And, E-Harmony is not cheap, so I was doubly surprised – because according to my friend, the system is worthless unless you pay for it, so she caved and paid.
I don’t think she knew much about the site before she signed on. All I know about the site is that it’s expensive, they have mushy commercials and a friend of mine who used it didn’t have much success. I’ve never done the E-Harmony process myself, guided romance just doesn’t appeal to me.
Anyways, she was telling me how annoying it was to go through this whole questionnaire process to sign-up and how the matches come to you. You don’t choose, they choose for you based on your answers to the questionnaire and their patented technology. And then she was telling me how stupid it was when guys closed the matches. When they do that it’s basically “see ya later alligator, not interested” and you don’t get matched to them again. You can appeal, but that seems a bit weird, and desperate, to me.
So, she’s met a couple of guys, but it hasn’t been what she thought (she’s no longer using it). And, for her it felt strange to go through this whole process just to have contact with them. Its not immediate, you have to go through this song and dance before you have direct contact. Instant gratification is not how you would describe E-Harmony.
The whole process seems weird to me. Not harmonious if you ask me. But, I applaud her for taking the plunge to do something proactive. And, she’s still in contact with at least one guy, so who knows what will happen. But, she won’t be participating in those mushy commercials for E-Harmony anytime soon.