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CITY OF ROSES

I’ve been so lazy lately, haven’t accomplished anything with my condo.  I haven’t put up any photo’s, decorated (in any way), taken any bins down to my locker, nothing.  I just kinda stare at the mess that is my den right now.  I’m not sure why I’m in this state of…….um…….non-activity, but I am.  Actually, maybe I’m just still burnt out from all the purging, packing, purging, packing and more purging I went through to move……I’m not sure.  But, I am sure that I need to get out of this funk.

I came back recently from a trip to Portland, Oregon.  It’s probably one of my favourite cities in the U.S.  And, the tax-free shopping helps too.  I’ve been to Portland many times, but usually either went with someone or visiting someone who would take me around.  This time I was on my own, so I decided to do a walking tour, I wanted to do something different and I read some great reviews about these walking tours.  I went on an Epicurean walking tour, so basically I walked around downtown and the Pearl district and sampled food along the way.  It was a terrific tour and definitely worth the money spent.  I learned a lot more about the city then I already knew so that was good.

I didn’t do as much shopping as I had anticipated that I would, but since I’m not a big shopper to begin with, I wasn’t surprised.  I did get to see the Rose Garden, which was so pretty.  Everything was in bloom and I took a few photo’s (as you see above) and smelled a few roses.  I had not anticipated going up there, but glad to have gone because Portland is the “City of Roses” so how can I visit without even stepping foot into the Rose Garden?

It was good to get away it renewed my itch to travel.  Unfortunately, I don’t have a lot of vacation days leftover for the year (thanks to my move) so I need to spread them out.  I really enjoyed my time in Portland, so much so that I want to go back again!  Anyways, I’ll see how things go….I don’t like to plan too far ahead, I’d rather just be spontaneous.

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AFTERMATH

My move went well – the movers I hired were amazing.  I’m lucky, I haven’t had any bad experiences with movers so far.

I knew that when I sold my condo I would have to go through another purge of my stuff…as if the first purge I did before I put my place on the market wasn’t enough…actually it wasn’t.  But, I learned a hard lesson here, that I will never, ever and I mean NEVER accumulate so much stuff ever in my life again.

It’s all good, I needed to downsize because my future plans do not include me owning so much.  Plus, I just lost 400 sq. ft. of space, so I really have no choice either!  I’ve moved a few times now, but this is the first time that I’ve taken the time to really look at all that I own and decide that I needed to eliminate a lot of what I had because about 3/4’s of it I didn’t even use or remember that I had.  I don’t need a lot – less is always better – and I’m not a hoarder by any means, but I never really took the time to look through and organize my things when I moved back to Toronto 7 years ago and that definitely bite my ass when I moved this time.  And, this is the first time in 12 years that I’m back in a small space.  I’m pretty proud of myself though, because I was able to fit all my stuff into my little den which means I really downsized significantly.  So, now I just need to fit it all in my locker so that my den can be cleared out and set-up the way I want.

Anyways, I have some serious unpacking to do.  I’m not going to rush myself though, I’m going to take the time to set my place up the way I want.  I have found in the past that I always rush into everything I do, but this time I want to do it right.  And, the place I bought is new, never lived in.  I bought it as a sales assignment and learned a lot about the process, it’s rather complicated, but I’m happy with the outcome.

It’s nice to start fresh and have some money in the pocket too while I’m at it.  I’m definitely going to take a well deserved vacation this year.  Now, I just need to figure out where…too many destinations, just not enough time!

MOVING

I finally sold my condo!  Actually, its been sold for over a month now, but the whole process of getting it ready, cleaning my place, has not only been time-consuming, but tiring.  I remember now why I loathe moving so passionately, its exhaustive and draining.  After a lot of thinking, I decided not to rent, but to buy again.  It’s a bit of a kink in my plans, but it felt like the right thing to do.  Renting just didn’t seem right.

I have no idea right now where I’m moving to.  That’s been an interesting experience.  Unlike the States, the market is hot right now in Toronto so the pickings are slim.  I had put in an offer on a new place, meaning it hasn’t been registered with the city, but its built and getting occupied.  That turned into a bit of a fiasco if I don’t say so myself.  So, I’m putting in an offer on another place (at the same new building cause I haven’t completely learned my lesson) this week that will hopefully go a hell of a lot smoother than the last offer I put in.

My real estate agent is a pretty good guy, a little slow for my liking, but a good guy.  He’s a referral from a co-worker and so far he’s saved my ass….on the first offer I made that turned into a mess.  I have looked at about 30 – 40 places so far, maybe more I’ve lost count over the past two months.  Some of the places I’ve seen are spotless and then there were some I saw that were completely disgusting.  Only a handful have wowed me enough to consider putting in an offer.  And, even then, I have only put in one offer.

I haven’t even consulted movers yet because I’m not sure when I’m moving and where to.  Hopefully I’ll have that figured out this week because I’m starting to get antsy thinking I may have to stay with my parents for the interim.  That…would…not….be…..good.

Anyways, my life is consumed with this move and until I get it done and over with, I really can’t move forward.  And, I really need to move forward.  So, here’s to me starting fresh….somewhere…..soon.

PERSPECTIVE

In a month it’ll be Christmas.  I can’t believe it’s that time already.  The malls are getting busy and the days are getting shorter.

I met with a real estate agent finally and I decided to put my place on the market after the New Year.  It just seemed like the right timing.  I’m not in the mood to have people coming to see my place during the holiday season.  It just seems so disruptive.  I have one last repair to do, which is not really a repair, and some paint touch-up (if I can just find the matching colour that would be helpful).  The hole in the ceiling of my bathroom and the leaking are a thing of the past.  When I look at the ceiling now you’d never know that there was a hole there. 

I’m not sure what my living situation will be once I sell my place.  Of course I can certainly live at my parents place, gasp!, or my father’s investment home, but being super independent, I’m leaning more towards renting something temporarily or buying a smaller place that will sell easily when I need to.  I need to be easily mobile, so don’t know if I want to be burden again with a mortgage, but we’ll see.  I have a lot to decide in the next couple of months.

On a completely different note – my best guy’s father passed away recently.  And, that has put a lot of things in perspective for him.  We were talking about life and regrets and to never have any.  He’s realizing he wants to make some changes in his life.  Funny how death gives you moments of clarity.  Actually, it’s not funny, but it is interesting how that happens.  Sometimes we live life without much thought.  I think its good to be woken-up from the slumber, not that I think it’s a good thing his father passed away, but hopefully with his father’s passing he’ll live life with more passion, do the things he wants to do and not have regrets.  I worry about my best guy, for many reasons, so I’m really hoping he’ll come out of his grief a stronger person.

Anyways, looking forward to the weekend.  I’m having a girlfriends weekend, so it should be fun and relaxing.  It’s always good to have some bonding time with your girlfriends.

GETTING ON TRACK

I can’t believe how fast time has flown by.  The summer is almost over and fall weather will be setting in soon…hopefully not too soon even though I love the fall.

I know the summer is coming to a close when the CNE is on.  And, like last year I’ll be going again this year.  If it weren’t for my nephews, I don’t think I would be going at all.  But, I know I’ll have fun….eating my way around the Ex, buying useless things (hopefully not too many of them this year).  And, losing to all the games along the way.  My favourite game at the Ex is the Fishing Game where you have this fishing rod with a magnet at the end and you put it into the water attempting to gather as many chips as possible that will reveal the prize you get.  My other favourite game is hitting the gophers back into their hole…great way to take out your aggression, beating the crap out of gopher heads.  Ahhhh…good times.

The past few months have been a roller coaster for me.  I’m only now getting more focused on where I need to be.  My condo should be ready to be put on the market in a few months.  I still have some work I need to do, i.e. cleaning, and the garbage strike of 6 weeks was no help.  Moving is stressful, for me at least.  And, this time I refuse to be rushed – the last time I moved, across the country, it was not pretty.  And, I only had 2 months to get it together – meaning, sell my place, pack everything and move.  Its not something I want to repeat.

Anyways, I’m looking forward to the weekend and enjoying some time with my nephews.  Even though most of the summer has been crazy, I’m starting to feel more focused and determined.

WEDDING WEEKEND

WeddingRingMy friend’s wedding is this weekend.  I’m looking forward to it.  Its my first Italian wedding.  I was thinking about that this week, about 90% of the weddings I’ve gone to in my lifetime have been of the Chinese banquet variety.  I think I’ve only gone to three weddings that weren’t.  That was a bit shocking to me because my closest friends aren’t all Asian.

Anyways, I’m the chauffeur of choice to take my friend to the church.  So, I’m borrowing my mom’s car, which is a hell of a lot nicer than my own car.  I like my little clunker, but I don’t think she’s got much left in her.  Plus, my friend seemed a bit relieved when I said I’d use my mom’s car since she’s going away this weekend for a week in California.  I think the relief was partly cause my car’s not the greatest, but also because she wasn’t sure her whole dress would fit in my little car.  Too funny.  Her dress is gorgeous though and not at all too much.  Simple…exactly how weddings should be, in my opinion.

Speaking of dresses, hell, it was rough trying to find something to wear to this wedding.  I had an outfit for the wedding ceremony, but needed something for the evening.  I don’t like shopping, so that was the first hurdle to get through and then sorting through all the crappy things out there to find something decent was not an easy task.  And, there was a lot of crap out there.  I’m not super fussy about my clothes, I mean I’m super casual (maybe that’s the problem?) but seriously, everything I saw was yucky.  But, I finally found something (to my relief) late last week and picked it up a few days ago.  Its just a dressy top for the evening, I had to admit defeat and forget about wearing a one piece and just do the two piece.  I think I’ll be more comfortable anyways.  So, I’m set for the wedding and the reception.  I like wearing two different outfits, its the Asian wedding influence on me.

My friend is very happy and I’m very happy for her.  She found someone when she least expected to.  That’s the best part about it, when she didn’t think she’d find someone, there he was.

FAMILY VISIT

Life has been busy.

Any down time is a rarity these days.  Those quiet moments that I try to do at night?  Non-existent because I’m so exhausted at night that I curl up in my bed and fall asleep, screw the cleansing and calming of my mind.  For now.

I think that’s why I’ve been writing less, and I’m not talking about this blog, I’m talking about my journal writing.  I’ve been missing it, yet cannot compel myself to put pen to paper.  My mind is just not focused right now.  And, I have a lot of things I need to sort out.  I need to get focused.  Soon.

I am looking forward to next week.  I have some random days off, meaning I have a couple of days off during the week but not in a row.  My cousin and her husband are driving up from South Carolina so I want to spend a day with her.  I originally was thinking of visiting her during the Civic day long weekend, funny enough, and I had a few other places that I was contemplating, but after some thinking (damn the thinking) decided to delay it.

My cousin comes into town every few years.  Generally, she comes to stuff her face with as much Chinese food as she can without exploding.  She also shops till she drops, stuffing her car with as many Asian delicacies as is possible to pack into her vehicle.  Its quite hilarious to watch.  I remember one year she came, I think it was about 15 years ago or so when Chinese food was rare in the South and she had packed her car with so much crap it was overflowing.  She even used “secret” compartments in the van she was driving at the time to hide her food from the Customs officer. She owns a Chinese restaurant so she buys the stuff half for the restaurant and half for herself.

It’ll be good to see her.  My nephews are excited to see her too, both for the first time, so I know there will be funny moments.  It should be lots of fun, and I need this break from the norm (i.e. craziness) right now, so its a welcome change.